Psychologists Warn: Never Say These 5 Phrases to Your Children!
Every true parent will tell you this: the hardest thing in life is to raise a child. And they are so right! To raise a child is something special, holy and powerful as much as the connection between the parents and their children. However, to keep this bond alive both the parents and the children need to invest much time, emotion and keep the communication ‘flowing’.
Anyway, many parents and children are not even talking to each other these days. In this hard times, some of us forget who cares the most for us. The relation between child and parent is a determination of the lifepath, in a way.
The way our parents treated play major role in forming of our personality. The way we’re raised creates the behavioral and emotional profile and it’s something memorized deep down in our core. However, sometimes parents make mistakes.
Every parent who truly loves his child will do everything in their power to make the world a better place for their dearest. Not everytime parents choose the right way to do it. Here are 5 things NOT TO SAY to your children:
1. “Why is it so hard to do ___?”
This makes your children feel unworthy and useless. This will NEVER motivate your children to be successful in something, but the effect will be caused in the opposite direction.
2. “Big boys/girls are never afraid!”
Huge lie! If you want to make your children serious and intelligent person, you must describe the world to them in the most realistic way possible. On the other hand, you need to comfort your kids and try to make them feel safe when they are afraid. Mocking them is definitely not a good idea.
3. “I cannot believe you did that!”
This is a horrible phrase in the ears of every child. At first, this causes a slight shock and implicates a huge guilt immediately. This may confuse and shock your children in some cases. You should be patient and spontaneous. You should teach your children what is right or wrong and correct their mistakes.
4. ” You are not pretty/good/smart as you should be!”
This is probably the worst thing of them all. Seriously, this kind of demoralization is always intercepted as a huge insult from the kids and may inflame negative emotions, even hatred towards the parents. If this happens continuously, it may cause serious psychological complexes and problems when your children grow up.
5. “Stop crying immediately!”
Children have the right to cry. Most of the people really can’t stand loud crying and child history, but this kind of approach will definitely not going to stop the kids from crying.
We hope that this advice will help you establish a better connection with your children and make the things easier for you, but be aware that being a parent is the hardest thing to do. Parents make mistakes and will make mistakes- they can only try to be better and not to repeat them.