People Who Stay Happy Follow These 4 Rituals, According to Neuroscientist
The neuroscientists around the world discovered the rituals who keep the people happy or the rituals performed by happy and positive people. Recent research by the neuroscientist Alex Crop discovered astonishing reality about our conscious and subconscious behavior and its effects in our life.
Every single person has own routine. Some of our habits and rituals may really help us improve and grow as a person, but some others are harmful. Here is what Alex Krob research has to offer to learn the rituals of the positive/happy people:
1. WE SHOULD LEARN WHAT’S HAPPENING TO US WHEN WE FEEL AT OUR WORST, AND WHY
Alex Krob teaches that our biggest enemy is actually our own brain. All of our emotions are specifically activated in certain areas in our brain. Satisfaction is the stronger emotion in the areas where shame, pride and guilt are. BUT, when we activate the nucleu accumbens, shame and guilt are dominating over our pride, and even satisfaction.
This part of the brain is considered to be ‘the reward center”. Anxiety is also closely connected with the functions of this part of the brain. That’s why we need to learn how to control these emotions and keep this part of our brain relaxed, as well as the whole body and spirit. How to do it? – ASK OURSELVES WHAT WE’RE GRATEFUL FOR.
In times of anxiety, these thoughts may help us overcome the strong stress and panic. If we do this more often when we are stressed and depressed, we will significantly improve our health.
2. WE SHOULD IDENTIFY THE FEELINGS THAT BRING US DOWN
According to the neuroscientists if we identify the feelings that bring us down, their impact will become way ‘softer’. It’s clear that we can’t control our emotions. At least we can try to do it, but it’s very hard, especially in unexpected situations. However, practicing mindfulness will help us reduce the negative effect of those emotions. Participants in a study were told to look at images of people’s faces, where they were each expressing a different emotion.
The participant took on the emotion simply by looking at the image, which increased activity in the amygdala. However, after each of the participants labeled what emotion was being shown, activity in the amygdala decreased again. Why? Because understanding the exact emotion reduced the emotion’s ability to take over. In other words, recognizing the way you’re feeling helps conquer the wrong emotions.
3. WE SHOULD BE MORE ACTIVE IN MAKING DECISIONS
Free yourself of any doubt. Eventually you always need to make a decision. Sooner or later, you always need to choose an option. Bothering and caring about making a specific decision is completely useless. We need to understand that we often care bout useless things. To live more healthy lives we need to remain focus on the things that really matter. Korb’s research found that actively choosing to do something that has a good outcome is even better than something happening just by chance. This will be the outcome of your work and the progress will be visible. This will not make you only a happer person, but way more succesful and effective.
4. FINALLY, WE SHOULD MAKE A HABIT OF MAKING PHYSICAL HUMAN CONTACT
When we are emotionally rejected by someone, our spirit is wounded. As much as the physical pain, we need to value the emotional pain the same. During a study where participants tossed a virtual ball to a partner, they began to feel rejection when the virtual partner stopped sharing the ball. Studies of the participant’s brains showed they felt this rejection in the same way you’d feel a broken arm – physically, in the insula and anterior cingulate. This means that social rejection hurts us much and changes us forever, on the other hand, when we experience acceptance it boosts us immediately. This means that you need to remain in touch with people as much as possible an have physical contact.
The physical contact will make you feel even more connected and accepted by the social group. Touching is also helpful if you are in pain.