Here’s Why Non-Attachment is the Key to Finding Inner Peace in a Crazy World
The true non-attachment is one of the spiritual phrases which are badly associated with something else. Unfortunately, many people think that non-attachment is being emotionally cold and unfeeling, but this is a huge mistake. The true non-attachment is a skill, way of life, routine and rules that are going to help you live a fulfilled life.
The true non-attachment enables us to live in this world fully, without being attached to people, things, material or thoughts that create suffering. According to the eastern spiritual teachings, especially Buddhism, the root of suffering is the attachment. Sometimes we attach to things or people making the greatest mistake in our lives. We share some spiritual concepts from these teachings to help you understand better what attachment and non-attachment really are:
The root of suffering is attachment – The Buddha (Buddhism)
When we come to non-attachment, then we can understand the marvelous mystery of the universe: how it is intense activity and at the same time intense peace, how it is work every moment and rest every moment. – Swami Vivekananda (Hindu Tradition)
Consider the trees which allow the birds to perch and fly away without either inviting them to stay or desiring them never to depart. If your heart can be like this, you will be near to the Way. – Zen saying
Act without expectation – Lao Tzu (Taoism)
He who is attached to things will suffer much. – Tao Te Ching
Aparigraha (Non-attachment): One of the three pillars of Jainism
Attach not thyself to anything unless in it thou seest the reality of God. – Abdu’l-Baha (Bahá’í Faith)
Detachment is not that you should own nothing, but that nothing should own you. – Ali Ibn Abi Talib (Islam)
You can find more quotes, but to understand the essence of the non-attachment you need to learn how to let go of all your thoughts and emotions that create suffering. Of course, to begin walking this path of spiritual cleansing, first, you need to truly acknowledge yourself and find out which things in life make you suffer.
However, the non-attachment doesn’t mean that you need to become numb. You need just to stay focused and with practices as mindful awareness and meditation to find out who you really are. You need to learn how to flow through life effortlessly and peacefully, to live every moment filled with happiness and to focus on your mental and spiritual hate. So, the true goal of non-attachment is to become like WATER- to go with the flow.
The things that make us suffer are obstacles who stop the flow. When you learn how to flow through your life and stay focused and determined on your real purposes, then you will see the huge benefits of non-attachment. There are some of those great benefits:
- You will stop being controlled by your emotions. Instead, you’ll become interested in them
- You won’t be attached to the outcome, meaning that you’ll be free from the dread, anxiety, and inner tension that comes with clinging to expectations
- You’ll be more curious, open, and spontaneous because you have no predetermined desire or craving
- You’ll be more peaceful and less neurotic, meaning that your relationships and friendships will drastically improve
- You’ll feel consistently relaxed and serene because you’re not identifying with your thoughts and feelings (and instead you’re witnessing them as a “passive observer”)
- You’ll be more resilient in the face of loss and death because you’re not attached to people and realize that all things are ephemeral
- You’ll feel a sense of expansive freedom because you’re no longer a slave to the mind
- You’ll feel a sense of wholeness because you don’t need or want anything, in particular, you’re happy just as you are in the present moment
- You’ll feel more love for yourself and others because you’re not attaching to beliefs and expectations about who you/others “should” be or what “shouldn’t” happen – you’ll give yourself and other people freedom to be themselves without judgment
- You’ll experience more synchronicity as life unfolds effortlessly and naturally
- You’ll no longer be addicted to “getting” things or filling an empty hole in yourself because you’re content and don’t attach to the belief that someone or something will “complete” you
- You’ll feel more grounded and connected to life because you’re not lost in thought-based attachments – you’ll participate in life more fully
- Your mind will become clear, and you’ll be able to perceive the truth more easily
- You’ll feel gratitude, love, compassion, and happiness permeate your life as you have let go of the need to chase happiness (which creates unhappiness)Now, we will give you some great pieces of advice how to stop being attached to thoughts, feelings, people and circumstances:
1. Let go of the “shoulds” and “musts”
There’s the only thing that all men and women MUST do. They all MUST die- nothing else. The word ‘should’ must not be part of your vocabulary anymore. Try to be more: ‘now and here’ person. The big plans and patterns we create in life are often a huge distraction. Sometimes we are so trapped in ‘the bubble’ that we are blinded by our own precautions and fears.
1. Stop looking for happiness in external things
If you want to be non-attached try to find the happiness in non-material things. Spend more time with yourself- that’s what will help you grow as a person and, also, find your inner peace and comfort. Material accomplishments are never the answer- you can have all money in the world, but be so poor inside.
3. Practice allowing
Allow things, thoughts, emotions… Allow life! As we already said, the time to leave the bubble is here. You need to learn how to take risks. That’s life- full of risks and opportunities if you are so attached to one thing you may see the whole world running beside you standing at one point.
4. Break the routine
Break your old patterns. Stop doing what you usually do- just as an experiment. If you do this and become more open to things and people, you will certainly change your routine and bring new contents in your life. You need to change your spiritual world, but you also need to bring changes in your material world. That’s why you should try some new things even if they don’t attract you so much at first sight. You may discover new things about yourself.