6 Differences Between Being In Love and Loving Someone
One of the most popular questions of all romantic souls is ‘ What the true love really means and what’s the difference between falling in love, being in love and loving someone?’. When it comes to human emotions and feelings its always hard to tell. Us, the humans, are very complicated beings and it requires a lot of work to determine something with certainty about us, especially when it comes to our emotions.
“True love doesn’t happen right away; it’s an ever-growing process. It develops after you’ve gone through many ups and downs, when you’ve suffered together, cried together, laughed together.” – Ricardo Montalban
Loving someone and being in love with someone are two different things with similar feelings. However, there are some key differences that make a clear distinction between loving someone and being in love with someone. This is what the famous professional life coach and relationship expert Kemi Sogunle said:
“Being in love with someone can stem from infatuation, possessiveness and obsession. Loving someone on the other hand, goes beyond the physical presence. You desire to see them grow, you see past their flaws, you see opportunities of building into each other and together; you motivate, encourage and inspire one another.”
In this article, we will share the 6 known differences between loving someone and being in love:
1. LOVING SOMEONE IS A CHOICE.
To fall in love with someone is often involuntary. However, when you love someone you make strong conscious efforts to keep the bond strong and keep the relationship on the right track. For instance, some people of your family or your best friends- you may not be always getting along, but you will fight to regain their trust, love and respect. When you fall in love, you don’t have a choice at all. You may fall in love with people that you’ve never expected.
2. BEING IN LOVE MEANS PUTTING THEM FIRST.
If you love someone, you will always put them first, fight for them and wish them the best. When you are in love with someone, you are able to make the sacrifice even unconsciously to help them succeed. “… the only way to love is to be less egocentric – to put the needs and well-being of others ahead of your own. When you’re willing to put the happiness of another ahead of your own, you are taking the part in the phenomenon we call love,” adds Hudson.
3. BEING IN LOVE IS FOREVER.
We love many people in our lives. Our life journey is long and on the path, we will find many good and bad people. Some of them will stay in our lives, some of them may disappear. However, the ones you’re being in love with will always stay in your life. Being in love with someone means that they also subconsciously feel your fears and happiness, that’s why they will never let you down. At least not subconsciously, like many other people who walk away from you without even noticing.
4. BEING IN LOVE MEANS LETTING THEM BE WHERE THEY ARE HAPPY.
You cannot expect to be in love with someone and be a ‘tutor’. You will always put them first, like we already said,and you will respect their choices and decisions. This means that you are even able to let them go and be wherever they want if that makes them happy. You will be able to sacrifice your own happiness for the sake of your loved one.
“When you truly love someone, in a clean, unattached way, there is an overwhelming sense of wanting the absolute best for them. True love is wanting the absolute best for someone, even if what is best for them is to not be in a relationship with you,” says relationship coach Jordan Gray.
5. BEING IN LOVE IS STEADY, NOT A RUSH.
Of course, the people who always rush have a big chance to fail before even reaching their goal. However, if you’re being in love it means that you already understand the concept of a true, ever-lasting love. It requires a lot of ‘nurturing’, efforts, sacrifices and hard work. At the same time, you will enjoy building the strong bond, using the positive effects of the high-frequency vibrations and positive emotions that are a pure product of your pure love.
6. BEING IN LOVE IS ABOUT PARTNERSHIP.
Being in love also means being in a partnership. There is no more “yours” and “mine”- it’s al OURS. You will must to learn to share not the emotions only, but everything in the material 3 D world. You need to unite in every single field of your existence. That’s when you truly become one, one in all segments and aspects of your living in this world.