Life is sometimes extremely hard and we just have to face the truth, despite how unpleasant it is. Death is one of those truths that really hurt and bother humanity. Each one of us, deep inside, is bothered by the end of life and what happens with our souls after we end this life.
However, what really bothers us is if we live this life good enough not to regret the time spent in this reality and level of existence. Anyway, we regret things and when we come to the end we see what we regret the most.
It is often said that death is the only certainty in life, yet, the uncertainty of what it implies remains a mystery. If we are innately aware that life ends at some point, we tend to live as if we were immortal and neglect our deepest desires and needs. A palliative nurse recorded the most common regrets of the dying and wrote a book entitled “The Top Five Regrets of The Dying”. This book gives a compelling insight into what a life well-lived means.
In this wonderful book, you have the opportunity to feel the energy of the dying man and see deep inside in the last moments of the human soul. It gives us a soft touch of the rough reality and teaches us that we need to change the way we live and see the things.
Have you ever wondered what these ‘most popular’ deathbed regrets are? Let’s check it out, the most regrets were the following:
The first regret was “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
By reflecting on their life choices, the dying felt regret toward their lack of authenticity.
They all wished they had chosen their own path in life instead of settling for more traditional or safe paths.
The second regret was “I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.”
This was mostly expressed by male patients who realized that they invested the time they had poorly. They regretted missing their children’s youth because of work.
The third regret was “I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.”
Similarly to the first regret, the patients often regretted their lack of authenticity. Resentment, bitterness, anger are negative effects that must be dealt with, not suppressed or ignored.
Interestingly, many of these patients developed illnesses due to the heavy weight of their frustration.
The fourth regret was “I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.”
Love, affection, comfort, laughter, are all dependent upon companionship and friendship. Research suggests that the key to happiness and health is a strong and authentic social network.
Too often, we undervalue what we have and only realize its true value when it is gone.
The fifth regret was “I wish that I had let myself be happier.“
The patients all realized that, after all, happiness is a choice. We can choose to let go of what makes us unhappy and unfulfilled. We can move toward what can help us grow, evolve, improve and reach a peaceful state.
What do you think about this? How does it make you feel? Do you think you live your life in good quality not to have regrets when the time comes?