A Buddhist Master Explains Detachment, And It’s Not What You’ve Expected
One of the key teachings of Buddhism is that the key of all suffering is attachment. You’d think that getting yourself detached from all the material pleasures would end your suffering but that is just the first step.
It is quite easy to detach yourself from things, in comparison to detaching yourself from people. The attachment we have for fellow human beings, be it your family members, friends or lovers, is very hard to get over from.
But that just makes it even more important to realize that the suffering caused by attachment to relationships is severe and should be overcome. What is even more interesting to know is that we aren’t even really attached to these specific people. Rather, we are hooked on to how we feel when we are around them. It is more about the experience than the person themselves.
Here are 4 Buddhist concepts which will help you understand and eventually transcend attachment:
This word finds its roots in the word ‘Mitra’ which in turn means amicable and friendly. In Buddhist belief, this is very important because it helps fighting ill will. It helps one cultivate a kind of love and understanding for one and all, all of humanity and not just particular people.
The most basic translation of this word would be compassion. In Buddhist philosophy when we learn to be compassionate, we are closest to our natural self. When we can really feel the pain of others and thus want to help them, we become true to ourselves too; thus eliminating the bad within us.
This concept helps you to be happy for others. It might seem strange but this is the inner joy; all of us know about it but we are scarcely able to access. When we are happy and content within our own being, the success and achievements of others won’t daunt us and we’d be able to find joy in those moments too.
Upeksha means to be unaffected in the face of constant changes that the world throws at us. It means facing happiness, sadness, anger, everything with the same stoic response. It is not to be confused with indifference towards fellow human beings.